Unofficial Arousal
Dear Pearl Clutchers, Please put your pitchforks down for just a minute. I’m not trying to change the world. I’m
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I Sell Fantasies, Not Girl Scout Cookies
I’ve always needed sex. Not in the frantic, can’t-function-unless-I’m-getting-railed way, but more like it’s oxygen. I can hold my breath
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Gay Erotica Without the Pearl-Clutchers
Zero Tolerance for Unnecessary Moderation If you’ve been reading my work, you know I’ve been publishing on Substack for a
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From Glory Holes to Grey Zones: The Curious Case of Bromance and Sexuality
From Glory Holes to Grey Zones: The Curious Case of Bromance and Sexuality There’s a hole in the wall. And
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Gay Is No Joke
Being gay is no joke.It’s walking into a room in heels, slapping someone’s drink out of their hand, telling them
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The Rise of Modern Gay Erotica & MM Romance
Gay erotica isn’t just having a moment, it’s staging a full-blown takeover. Once upon a time, you had to go
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Cerebral Sex: If You Can’t Fuck My Mind, Don’t Bother With My Body
Brain First, Balls Later: The Unsexy Truth About Real Lust and Psychological Attraction He had shoulders like a Roman statue
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What Gloryholes Reveal About Male Sexual Desire
When Shame, Curiosity, and Wood Panelling Collide Let’s start with the obvious: if you’re here for a clean-cut history lesson
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Straight Guys: From Caveman Grunts to Emotional Texts at 2AM
Straight Men: From Caveman to Emotional Gym Bro Hey… let me be straight up (pun intended), this post isn’t here
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How to Stop Seeking Validation Without Becoming a Soulless Monk
How to Stop Seeking Validation Without Becoming a Soulless Monk If you’re wondering how to stop seeking validation, you’re not
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When the Best Sex of Your Life Breaks Your Brain
When the Best Sex of Your Life Breaks Your Brain The best orgasm of my life should have come with
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Pride in the Thunder: Why We Can’t Just Celebrate Pride Month Anymore
This Pride Month, the glitter’s fading, the rights are slipping, and it’s time we remembered what the hell we’re actually
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Gay Straight Men Fantasies: Why They Happen (And Why We Love Them)
The first time I heard a straight man confess that he’d fantasised about gay sex, he did it like he
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The Self Storage Unit Accusation That Never Happened
Welcome to the Self Storage Unit Circus (Music Optional, But Strongly Implied) If you’ve landed here fresh, welcome to the
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Slut Shame, Gay Shame, Same Game: Why Straight Men Still Get to Set the Rules
And Why I’m Not Playing by Their Rules Anymore The first time I saw someone get slut-shamed, I was probably
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