We often toss around the word ‘stimulation’ like it’s a coin we’ve found in our pocket, familiar yet rarely given much thought. But what if I told you that true stimulation is an art form, a delicate dance that begins much before the physical connection, in a realm where words and thoughts are the seducers?

In the corridors of our minds, where thoughts whisper and emotions play hide and seek, lies the first stage of a more profound stimulation. It’s a place often overlooked, yet it holds the key to a treasure trove of deeper connections. Think about it. When was the last time you felt truly connected with someone? Was it their touch that sent shivers down your spine, or was it their words, their ideas, the thrilling volley of conversation that left you wanting more?

Now, let’s not sidestep the obvious. Yes, physical stimulation is a significant chapter in this story. But here’s the twist – it’s not the beginning, nor is it the end. It’s merely one aspect of a multi-dimensional experience. The touch, the caress, the physical closeness we all crave, becomes infinitely more intense when it’s built upon a foundation of mental and emotional connection.

The problem, as I see it, is that we’re often in a rush to reach the climax of the story, skipping the essential build-up. It’s like biting into a sandwich without savouring the flavours. What we forget is that the journey can be as exhilarating as the destination.

I’ve spoken to women who tell me, “Get into my head first, and you’re halfway there.” And it’s not just women. Many men echo the same sentiment. It’s about being seen, understood, and valued – not just as a physical being but as a complex, intricate individual.

So, here’s a thought. Next time you think about stimulation, pause for a moment. Consider the power of a conversation, the allure of an intellectual connection, and the magnetic pull of someone who understands not just your body, but your mind and soul. That, my friends, is where the true art of stimulation lies – in the seamless blend of the mental, emotional, and physical, each enriching the other, creating an experience that’s truly holistic and, ultimately, deeply fulfilling.

The art of having sex is really about stimulating the mind first. Once you’ve stimulated the mind, unless your penis needs a magnifying glass and tweezers to hold, you can then say you’ll pound the hell out of someone and they’re more likely to throw you on the bed and start kissing you, before they eventually breathe, “yes!” in an exhilarating whisper.

Have you checked out my latest book called Nius? What about The Hole in the Door? That one has done pretty well and is a little…saucy.