7 Insane Things the Narcissist Did After I Blocked Him
7 Insane Things the Narcissist Did After I Blocked Him
What happens when you block a narcissist? You expect silence and maybe, peace. But what actually follows is chaos. Relentless, sustained psychological abuse designed to make sure you never forget them. They don’t let go, because they retaliate and escalate. You think blocking them is going to end the carnage, but unfortunately what it does is start the narcissist smear campaign.
These aren’t metaphors, they are seven real things that happened to me after I blocked him and after I ended a narcissist relationship. Seven out of hundreds. This is what a vindictive narcissist looks like once he knows you’re done.
What happens when you block a narcissist?
Here’s what actually happened when I blocked him.
The cruelty became precision targeted.
These are the seven most unhinged, batshit, jaw-dropping things he did after I cut contact. You cannot make this stuff up.
1. He Blackmailed Me for Money, Then Torched My Business
The message came through a money transfer app. He asked for money. Just like that. No explanation. No apology. Just an expectation. When I didn’t respond, he let me know I would regret it. What followed was not a tantrum. It was a calculated and deliberate attack on everything I had spent years building.
He unleashed a smear campaign designed to destroy me. Then took things I had openly shared, my writing, my sexuality, my work, and twisted them into grotesque weapons. He told people I was dangerous and accused me of things I never said and never did. He emailed colleagues, clients, friends, strangers and constructed a version of me so far removed from reality that it left people unsure what to believe.
And that was the goal. To create doubt and to make people hesitate: to ruin me without touching me.
It worked. My business collapsed. My name was dragged through dirt I didn’t even know existed. It has taken months for investigators just to begin piecing together that part of the case. And that’s only the beginning.
But the thing he didn’t take into consideration is that I’m very proud of the word I’ve done. I am proud of my book about a glory hole which has done well, along with the blogs I write about gloryholes.
2. He impersonated professionals to access my rebuilt site
After the first takedown, I started again. Quietly. Carefully. I built something new. And he came for that too. He pretended to be clients, specialists or members. He used fake identities to register on my site, to infiltrate it from the inside. And once he was in, he began emailing everyone. Every member and every subscriber. He posed as me and wrote as himself. It didn’t matter which voice he used. The goal was the same. Discredit me, wipe me out and ruin me before I had a chance to rise.
I didn’t even get time to react. The fallout was immediate. People who believed in me were gone overnight.
The trust I had started to rebuild was obliterated in a single day. Not by some big scandal, but by a lonely man with a lot of fake email addresses and an unhealthy obsession with control. A man who was born rotten and had to destroy someone else’s passion because he’s morally empty and pure evil.
3. He sent over 585 abusive messages through my websites in 1 day
There wasn’t a single hour of the day he didn’t try to reach me over months. When I closed one contact form, he found another. When I blocked one email, ten more showed up. By the end, there were over 585 messages logged, most of them vile in just one day. Some were simple insults, while others were long, grotesque essays on how worthless I was. He titled them with names like “FatLonelyPredator” and “LyingKing.”
He masked his IP address using VPNs, routed messages through other countries and used unknown numbers. This wasn’t just digital stalking and online harassment. He didn’t just want to scream at me, he wanted to become untraceable, omnipresent. This malignant narcissist had to be the thing I couldn’t escape.
And for a while, he was. He even sent me a terrifying message letting me know that I would see him whether I liked it or not.
Read: Online Stalker Sends Terrifying Message: “You’re Going to See Me”
Even when I locked every door, he slipped through a window. Then ten more. His obsession became a full-time job. Every waking hour was spent trying to punish me for cutting him off. And no matter what I did, he kept coming.
4. He sent countdown timers with no explanation
They would arrive in my inbox with no subject line, no message body, just a timer. Tick Tick Tick. And when the countdown ended, something always came next. A threat or a leak and then a new wave of messages. It was a game to him and a way to keep me anxious. Keep me afraid and on edge, so I’d watch the clock instead of living my life.
He wanted control, and when he couldn’t get it through charm or guilt or seduction, he resorted to fear. The countdowns weren’t just a threat. They were a promise.
5. He sent revenge porn and threatened to send it to my family
He didn’t just violate me: he distributed me. He took private images and sent them to people who never asked to see them. These were people I respected and people who knew me. Some who will now look at me differently forever.
Then he told me he had more. That he could send them to my family next. He named them. Listed the people he would contact. The ones he thought would hurt me the most. He made it clear that this was just the beginning. That if I didn’t play along, if I didn’t respond, he would escalate.
This is what narcissists do when they lose power. They grab whatever they can find and throw it at you until something sticks. And when it doesn’t? They throw harder.
6. He sent me a video of myself having a night terror
What happens when you block a narcissist? They do things like send me a video I didn’t even know existed. Mine did it while I was asleep, deep in a night terror, my body twisting and flinching while he stood nearby, filming the whole thing. He had recorded it months earlier and held onto it like a trophy, waiting for the moment it would hurt the most. After I blocked him, that moment came. No warning. No message. Just the video, sitting in my inbox like a loaded gun. I watched myself trapped in sleep, visibly suffering, while he stayed behind the camera, doing nothing but recording. And the worst part? He laughed.
He didn’t help, wake me or comfort me. He documented it for later with an evil laugh I still remember. Even law enforcement cannot comprehend what kind of evil monster would do something like that.
That wasn’t just a violation, it was a message and a calculated move. Proof that while I was helpless, he was already rehearsing his next performance. And the stage was mine.
The next stage for him will be the courtroom, while the judge watches that same video alongside hundreds of others. And I wonder, when the laughter plays again, will that judge laugh too?
7. He sent me the dick pic of the guy he cheated with and told me he said hello
Cheating was just one of the many betrayals, but the aftermath was far worse.
He swore on his nephews’ lives that he hadn’t cheated while telling me I was paranoid. He called me controlling and told me I was crazy, saying that I was making it up. Gaslight me so hard I started to doubt my own memory, even with evidence in my hands.
Then, months later, he sent me a photo. It was the man he had cheated with. Or, more specifically, the man’s penis. “He says hi,” he wrote. That was the entire message. Just that. That’s what closure looks like when you’re dealing with a narcissist who doesn’t care if you break, as long as he gets to hear it shatter.
Narcissists lie like it’s instinct. Mine was a pathological liar. Not just to me, but to himself. I later spoke to his ex, who confirmed everything. The cheating, the gaslighting and the emotional warfare. “He’s a psychopath,” he said. But it’s worse than that. This wasn’t just narcissism. It was the full Dark Tetrad.
More on that here: Dark Triad Personality: Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Machiavellians
So, What Happens When You Block a Narcissist?
They lose access to your attention, which to a narcissist, is unforgivable. And they don’t move on, they retaliate and they plot, they obsess and escalate. If they can’t control you directly, they try to control the way the world sees you. If that doesn’t work, they try to hurt you. And if that doesn’t work, they panic. That’s when the chaos begins. This is what’s called narcissistic rage.
This post is not for him, though he will be reading it. Not for long.
This is my final goodbye to the one who thought this was all a bit of fun. After this, he won’t be reading anything I write. He’ll be dealing with investigators, evidence files, legal documents, and a justice system that has finally caught up. He’s used the internet to abuse and harass me for months, and now it’s going to bury him so deep, it will probably be decades before he sees the sun shine again.
If you’re reading this as someone who is still trapped, know this. You are not powerless and nor are you crazy. And you are definitely not alone. These people don’t stop unless they’re stopped. And the thing they don’t realise, is that they can be. There are many ways. Strategies, documentation, digital trails and laws they don’t think apply to them.
After seeing what happens when you block a narcissist, let them watch, and panic from their resultant actions. But let them know that their countdown has already begun. The fun part will be watching them scramble to delete evidence that’s already in. These stupid people are chaotic and relentless and often arrogant, not realising that every single IP and email can be traced. And deleting? That just shows intent (mens rea).
What happens when you block a narcissist? Trauma Recovery
This isn’t just a story about digital stalking or online harassment. It’s what happens when you end a narcissist relationship and they refuse to let go. Narcissistic rage isn’t always loud. Sometimes it’s calculated, sustained and terrifyingly strategic. The smear campaigns don’t stop when the relationship ends. In most cases, that’s when they begin. But you can survive it. You can recover. Trauma recovery is absolutely possible, even after the most brutal attempts to destroy you. The key is strategy, documentation and remembering this truth: narcissists might be relentless, but so are we. And eventually, the justice system catches up.
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